I lost my first husband in a car accident in 2002. Broken, I immediately went to therapy searching for help. My therapist recommended a grief support group for me to attend. My initial reaction was "why would I want to go to a place where everyone is as sad as I am?" It wasn't my nature to share my inner most fears with family and friends – let alone with absolute strangers. I could not have been more wrong…group was the most important aspect of my healing process and facilitating support groups is now one of my favorite things to do as a mental health therapist.
In groups, we shed our "masks" and reveal all parts of ourselves – the good, the bad, and the really ugly. What is most amazing is that in spite of our differences as people, there are many more ways in which we are alike. Getting validation from others and learning that we all have similar struggles helps reduce our sense of isolation and intense feelings of being alone. I felt such relief and comfort to be around other people who really just "got it" and that made all the difference in my recovery.
Groups can often feel like an extended family (hopefully without the drama). They offer support, establish trust, and provide a safe place where all emotions are accepted. Through this experience, participants often develop new skills to relate better to others, which extends far beyond the group. Even those that just show up and say nothing, still walk away having learned something or identifying a new way to handle a situation.
For many, joining a group can be uncomfortable because they may not know anyone – therein lies the magic. Everything that takes place in group is confidential. The fact that others to whom you have no original connection are facing the same situation may help you open up and truly explore a path to feeling well again. In group, hope is often restored.
Support groups can help with most of life's challenges: grief, parenting, weight loss, addiction, and more. If you are struggling, take a chance and join a support group...I did and I will be forever grateful.
Check out The Wellness Connection's Support Groups page for our latest support group offering.
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